Communication designed to bring about greater self awareness and positive change.

Clients often ask me questions about Coaching and making important decisions in their lives that could be helpful to everyone. I will answer some of the questions that I have been given and post them here for you. If you have a question that you would like answered then email me on sanam.saleh-taleghani@selfstate.com and I will answer them for you.

Q. What can you achieve from working with a Coach?
A. Working with a Coach will achieve the results that you desire and work towards. Initially you will identify the area or areas in your life that you want to work on, then you will set the goals together with your Coach and begin the work.

It’s a journey of refinement and self discovery. Working with a Coach will allow you to identify and work with your inner potential, what this means practically is that you begin to develop and expand your current vision of yourself and what you are capable of. Your Coach will often push you beyond your comfort zone, often ask you to refine your ideas and help you to create an image of yourself till you are satisfied with the results.

Your Coach will work with you to unravel your innate powers. Your innate powers are your natural skills and abilities, some which you may already know and celebrate and others which you have yet to discover and develop. By encouraging you to evaluate your strengths and work on your weaknesses your Coach will align your capabilities and help you orientate them towards achieving your goals.

You will soon become aware of habitual limitations that are unnecessary and hold you back, these are thoughts, feelings and actions that become a part of daily living and which we often let slide without addressing. At first you may think that these habitual limiting beliefs and actions are not as significant as you feared, however the impact they have on our confidence and ability to develop and grow soon becomes evident. They effect our self esteem and the extent to which we apply ourselves to achieve our full potential. They have therefore, a great significance towards the fulfilment of our purpose and aspirations.

Your role is key, you will determine the subject and pace of your progress, you will determine the goals and the direction and most important of all you will have to do the work. Your Coach will be there to guide and support you and push you when you need it, ultimately though the responsibility of the work and the extraordinary effort that is required is yours and so are the results you achieve.

Communication designed to bring about greater self awareness and positive change.

Clients often ask me questions about Coaching and making important decisions in their lives that could be helpful to everyone. I will answer some of the questions that I have been given and post them here for you. If you have a question that you would like answered then email me on sanam.saleh-taleghani@selfstate.com and I will answer them for you.

Q – If you have to choose between the head and the heart, what would you choose to make you happy?
A – Happiness occurs rarely for the majority of human beings, this is because they are often in conflict with themselves. What does it mean to be in conflict with oneself? It means that there is a multiplicity within you and that in satisfying one you are sacrificing another, which ultimately causes you pain.

Your values are the assets that you will assign to the 8 fields which sum up the entirety of the areas of your life, and personal growth which are; body & mind, health & spirit, career &wealth, relationships & community. They determine what goals you have in each field and and how you will achieve those goals. Your beliefs are the rules that you will live  by whilst achieving your values and what you will judge your actions and the actions of others by. The will also determine your boundaries and your limitations.

For each area of our lives, however active we are, we have developed values and beliefs. Often, in each area we have developed multiple sets of values and beliefs and these are in conflict with one another and thereby cause a duality or multiplicity within us. Therefore when we act on them they cause us pain because we are sacrificing one set of values and beliefs for another.

When your centres are aligned, like the mind and the heart, they move forward together, in one direction, with clarity, precision and certainty. Then we can experience true fulfillment and happiness enrich our lives.

Like all things happiness will begin in your consciousness. A deep seated gratification for your very existence, for being and for acknowledging your being dwells in your heart which must be expressed in your own individual way. Through practicing and understanding this gratification, which is an appreciation of your being, you will develop an honest picture of the values and beliefs by which you live and the values and beliefs which truly represent who you are.

In our natural state the bulk of what we think and do is determined by the external world to us. Television, media, schools, peers determine for us by showing us in example who we ought to be and how we ought to live. They educate us on our values and beliefs, the very dear values and beliefs which we hold on to and fight for with our lives, are often determined by external bodies and not by our own efforts. We would have to study ourselves and one another and then evaluate our findings objectively and without judgement before determining our own individual values and beliefs truly.

Instead our brain takes in all the data it is given and we become the things we think about, the dramas and the false ideas, the limited perceptions of our communities and environments and the negative and dark realities that begin to influence who we think we are and the world we think we live in.

The majority of people feel unfulfilled and detached from themselves. They feel a gap between who they are and who they wish to be, this gap is real and it is determined by actions that we take on a daily basis which distance us from ourselves.

If you are not happy, it is because whatever you are doing that is not aligned with your true self, it is causing you to move away from yourself and this distance from the self hurts.

When you are not aligned with your true self, your true desires are not fulfilled and you feel a deep dissatisfaction with the world and yourself in it. This alignment does not occur naturally, this alignment requires a constant work on oneself to become conscious, to re-evaluate ourselves and the world we think we live in and to create a new future for ourselves. It is possible to become completely lost and stuck in this great dissatisfaction for the entirety of our lives. It is also possible to relieve yourself of the great dissatisfaction with the help of those who have done so before you. The choice is yours, to get different results, you must act differently.

What is Career Coaching?

Career Coaching has taken off in Europe and the UK in the past few years as a result of the benefits it brings to its clients:

The benefits of working with a Career Coach are:

• Exploring your professional ambitions and aspirations,
• Identifying your professional competencies, skills and talents,
• Understanding excellence,
• Identifying key areas of development and training requirements,
• Developing short-term and long-term career goals,
• Successful job search and application process,
• Interview preparation, and
• Identifying further issues and overcoming obstacles such as confidence, communication skills and resources.

The support of a Career Coach will be long-term and your Coach can also work with you to improve areas that will influence your professional growth objectives such as evaluating your values and beliefs, identifying limiting beliefs and behaviours that are holding you back from progressing, identifying and overcoming personal problems and setbacks such as lacking confidence and motivation, or confusion and lack of direction.

In short your Coach is your confident, and there to support and inspire you along your path of personal development to achieve excellence and explore the possibilities for your development. For more on Career Coaching see http://jobs.guardian.co.uk/careers/200261/470516/coaching-your-career.

Coaching has recently been int he media for its benefits, see the Guardian’s article “Coaching you career”.

Why is it that in London we work more hours, earn less money, feel more stressed and our productivity is lower than our European peers?

Facing today’s economic challenges, we need to update corporate styles to keep up with modern 21st century economic needs and developments.

Corporate leaders can instill the optimism and motivation in their workers that is vital for economic revival using new attitudes and behaviours. 

The attitudes of the past do not serve today’s economic challenges. This simply means that the short-term fixes which once had the financiers exited have to be reviewed and new long-term solutions will have to be put in place to maintain a steady and strong rooted growth.

Using training models developed specifically to equip leaders and their teams to rethink today’s economic challenges, Corporate Coaches can assist companies in reviewing and making effective use of staff and resources.

Matching common ambitions and  individual aspirations of the members of the organisation in order to ensure higher productivity levels.

Balancing performance with training to ensure lower stress levels and effective use of skills aimed at achieving the goals of the organisation.

Updating communication styles to encourage simple, effective and non-hierarchical attitudes suitable for the pace of 21st century development.

These are just some considerations that form a whole development of an outdated style of business thinking which must be reviewed to enjoy long-term stability and success.